She’s Hurt the Bride Called Her a Spectacle for Selling Her Bridesmaid Dress, Even Though She Kicked Her Out of the Wedding for Missing the Bachelorette Weekend

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A woman agreed to be a bridesmaid in her friend’s wedding and spent hundreds of dollars on a custom dress, alterations, and shoes. A month before the wedding, she told the bride she couldn’t make the bachelorette weekend because of a family commitment.

The bride removed her from the wedding party. When the woman listed the dress online to recoup some of her money, the bride said seeing it for sale was humiliating and accused her of making a spectacle of the wedding.

Asked to Be a Bridesmaid

Her friend asked her to be a bridesmaid back in January. She said yes right away.

Being part of a friend’s wedding is a big honor. It also comes with a lot of commitments, from events to expenses.

She was happy to take part. She expected to stand beside her friend on the big day.

$280 Dress, Alterations, and Shoes

She ordered her bridesmaid dress from the shop the bride chose. It cost $280, was made in a custom color, and was final sale.

She also paid to have it altered. On top of that, she bought the shoes the bride wanted all the bridesmaids to wear.

Being a bridesmaid can easily cost hundreds of dollars or more once dresses, shoes, alterations, and events are added up. She’d already invested a significant amount.

Bachelorette Weekend Conflict

About a month ago, the bride sent out dates for the bachelorette weekend. It landed on the same weekend as her husband’s grandmother’s 90th birthday.

The couple had committed to that celebration months earlier. A 90th birthday felt like a once-in-a-lifetime event.

She told the bride she couldn’t make the bachelorette weekend. She promised she’d still be at every other wedding event.

Grandmother’s 90th Birthday

She felt she had to keep her commitment to her husband’s grandmother. Family milestones like that don’t come around often.

She didn’t expect missing one event to cause such a big problem. She’d already shown up for so much of the wedding planning.

To her, it seemed like a reasonable conflict. She hoped the bride would understand.

Removed From the Wedding Party

The bride didn’t reply for two days. Then she texted that if the woman couldn’t prioritize her wedding, she didn’t want her standing up there with her.

The woman tried calling twice. The bride didn’t answer either call.

Just like that, she was out of the wedding party. After months of preparation, she was no longer part of the day she’d been planning for.

Checked Out, According to the Maid of Honor

A few days later, the maid of honor messaged her. She said the bride felt like the woman had been checked out for a while.

According to the maid of honor, the bride had been holding onto those feelings, and missing the bachelorette was the last straw. That surprised the woman.

She’d been at every fitting and every shower. She’d even helped stuff welcome bags the month before.

Listing the Dress for $150

Last week, she listed the dress online for $150. She had no use for a long dusty rose gown, and the shop wouldn’t take it back.

Selling it was a way to recover some of the money she’d spent. Even at $150, she’d still be losing much of what she paid once alterations and shoes were included.

Reselling bridesmaid dresses is common, especially when they can’t be returned. For her, it seemed like the only practical option.

Humiliated or Just Recouping Costs

The bride’s cousin saw the listing and showed it to the bride. The bride then texted the woman saying she was making a spectacle of her wedding.

She said seeing the dress for sale was humiliating. The woman says she only wanted some of her money back.

She’s left wondering whether selling the dress was insensitive, or whether it’s reasonable to recover the cost of a dress she can no longer wear after being removed from a wedding she’d spent months supporting.

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